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Don’t Apologize For Loving Someone – Not Ever 

James Russell Lingerfelt’s note: We’ve received a lot of private messages from broken people. Hurting. This blog entry is dedicated to them.

We can love, love, love but sometimes that love isn’t returned. That’s not our fault. To love or not to love is a choice. We chose to love. They chose not to. This does not mean we are unloveable or unworthy of love. We’re not idiots, fools, or weak for loving.

Rather, we have courage. Because we chose to be vulnerable and self-sacrificing; a requirement for love. And…

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A Woman’s Response To “Beautiful Advice From a Divorced Man After 16 Years of Marriage” 

A note from James Russell Lingerfelt: We took a number of your responses and added them to the comments section below. The power of this article is in the collaborative effort, so feel free to add your own thoughts!

Lastly, in my experience watching my parents, if we make the conscious decision to daily place our spouse’s desires and needs above our own, and that’s reciprocated, the marriage will succeed. Utter and complete selflessness. Isn’t this true in all healthy relationships? Such principles are…

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Beautiful Advice From a Divorced Man After 16 Years of Marriage 

My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers. Mr. Rogers did a wonderful job with this article. Click on his name to follow him on the social networks!


A note from James Russell Lingerfelt: Mr. Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. Helped and encouraged thousands, infuriated few. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England. Men in USA and Singapore spoke healing words to men in Europe and India. A man…

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The Truth About The Jerk You’re Dating 

The Truth About The Jerk You’re Dating by James Russell Lingerfelt

Hey sis,

I’ve been thinking about our talk last week regarding Tom. I don’t want to sound too judgmental… but I think you might be with a jerk.

1. When girls date jerks, it’s because they mistake it for confidence. 

At least, that’s been my observation. A woman knows better, but that’s only because she has had experience with jerks. I don’t want to see you get hurt because of bad experiences. I’d rather you hear it from me instead, and guard…Read more

3 Reasons To Remember Your Heartbreaks – Not Forget Them 

3 Reasons To Remember Your Heartbreaks - Not Forget Them by James Russell Lingerfelt


You encountered your first taste of love, you journeyed through the valley, and you survived. You were able to pick yourself up, dust off, and give another love another chance.

If the first time around was physical attraction or infatuation, you learned your lesson. Now you want a life partner: Someone who will live and love life beside you, who will be there for you and you for them. Here’s 3 reasons why remembering your…Read more


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JR Lingerfelt's novels

The Mason Jar is a love story that teaches readers how to find healing after broken and severed relationships.

Alabama Irish is the sequel to The Mason Jar, and teaches readers the necessity of honesty and openness in the pursuit of loving, long-lasting relationships.


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